Kid visit hierarchy...

Much like in poker where there's a pre-defined set of hands that represent a hierarchy from best to worst, I think there's one for visits with kids.

Simply put, the family with more kids gets greater influence in determining time/location/nature of the get together. In the event of a tie, the family that has traveled further gets to decide.

However, if a family with one child comes from Denver to visit NYC and they want to get together with a family of 2 children, that family gets priority. If it's one person coming to visit one person, the person who travels farther gets deference.

At least that's the way I look at it :-)