Maybe it's the lasting impact of "Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters," but this morning when Tonka was having a tantrum over the type of spoon she had (got a whale, wanted elephant) and I was trying to explain to her, "it's not what you're saying, but how," I just had a realization.
Instead of a stern voice or threatening a punishment, I gave her a hug.
You know what? It worked.
She calmed down.
Guess the carrot sometimes has its place.