How do you react to death of a loved one?

I called a friend who recently lost his father to see how he was feeling.

“You know,” he said, “I feel like kind of a schmuck, but I actually feel fine.

“I feel like I am supposed to be really sad and not be able to do much, but you know…I was ready for this. It was a good life and I am doing just fine, but I feel like I can’t say that to anyone.’

The question we asked was:

is he unfeeling/uncaring or just super well-adjusted?