"Actually, we're on vacation..."

We had 3 good meetings today (two venture capital firms and one established software company). Some themes are emerging....

Israel is getting/staying strong in
-respecting Intellectual Property
-semi-conductors
-optical networks
-understanding the US market
-Internet technologies
-gaming (casino) technologies

Israel does not have strengths in:
-sales execution
-enterprise software (there's no money in it and Microsoft/Oracle/Symantec can't be toppled)
-communication skills (particularly listening).

The best example we got of this was: "In the US, when someone realizes that a listener doesn't understand him, he says "hmmm, I need to rephrase it.' In Israel, he says, 'this guy doesn't understand me, i'm smarter than he is and he's an idiot."

Tonight, we happened to find out about a networking event for people in the gaming industry, designed to bring together venture capitalists and start-ups. We crashed the event and started working the crowd. We would get people to talk about their business, ask them questions, and figured out what made them tick. They would ask us who we were.

Our answer, "I'm here on vacation."

No one of course believed us, but it's the truth. Best evidence I can think of that we're passionate about what we do. When we're (Asher and I) on vacation, we go and talk business and technology with start-ups and financiers.

on the ground...

Landed in Israel. It's been four years and the changes are noticeable. First one was the airport. The new terminal can go head to head with any one I've ever been in. If you judge a country by its airport, then Israel is a big time player on the world stage.

On a different note, I found out that there is only 1 synagogue in an airport in the entire Western Hemisphere, in JFK.

The components of attraction...

Saw a snippet of a program on National Georaphic Explorer channel about the three components of attraction that a man needs in his mate.

1. Physical attraction (lust)
2. Romantic attraction (feeling that you've found your soulmate)
3. Attachment (the willingness to persevere through difficulties together)

Makes me appreciate my mate all the more.

The trip....

I'm taking to Israel for a week is difficult because I have to leave my family. But I like the fact that I don't feel like I need a break from them or the stressors of life as a "familyman." Something reassuring and comforting about that.

Father of the bride...

We have a good friend whose daughter recently broke off an engagement. To many, it was a relief, since there were signs that the marriage did not have great chances of success.

Recently, we learned that the couple has begun dating again and is committed to "making things work."

I was listening to the mother of the girl describe her predicament. She felt doubtful that her daughter was making the right decision but she knew she could not get involved. If she rejected the idea, she rejects the daugther and thus damages the relationship. I could see the emotional pain on her face as she discussed the predicament she faced as a parent in having to restrain herself and enable her daughter to live her own life.

During our conversation, Calanit was running blissfully around with a big smile on her face. I couldn't help but wonder what type of emotional challenges this little, beautiful girl of mine would bring my way before all is said and done.

She's on my lap as I write this, enjoying the picture of herself

Tax season...

Though with each year it gets a bit easier as I acquire experience and understanding of the process, it still galls me that as a citizen of moderate intelligence, I can't do my own taxes.

Part of it has to do with the time investment, but part of it has to do with the fact that there are so many things to keep in mind that I'd miss more savings than I'd get. I tried once 3 years ago and may try it again in the future.

It is one of the few non-automated parts of my life and it rubs at me like a raw blister.

Have your cake and eat it, too...

I have a Media Center PC which does the same thing at Tivo (actually more) when it comes to watching TV.

It's great to record shows, listen to my music, watch our family pictures and videos, but the one concept that I get but still excites me is the ability to pause live TV.

It's one thing to tape a live game and watch it a few hours later. You know that it is long finished and there's no sense of being in the same period of time when the outcome is being determined.

Now, though, I can answer the phone, look at Calanit's blocks, or do whatever and I'm only minutes or seconds behind. Then, I can catch up.

Today, I watched the Olympic Gold Medal Hockey game. I started watching, paused it for 10 minutes and since the score is always in the top corner, I could catch up to the point where one team scored, watch that, and then catch up to the actual action and feel like I've seen the major points of the game in much less time.

The time-shifting phenomenon that Tivo, er Windows Media center, has enabled is quite remarkable.

My personalized Google search site

http://www.pimpyourgoogle.com/pimped.php?text=jer979

The Olympic Spirit....

Of those I've surveyed, most are not watching the Winter Olympics from Torino. Don't know why. Maybe I manage my time more efficiently, maybe less. Who knows?

Asides from being a sports buff, I like the Olympics because of my past travel experiences. For the Winter Games, in particular, I've been to almost every country of consequence. Thus, when I see Finland play Sweden or cross country skiers from the Czech Republic or Estonia, it's not some distant, intellectual concept, but a real place with real people I can picture in my mind. I can relate to the athletes and have some idea of what they mean to their own countries. It makes it more compelling for me.

I like the spirit of internationalism that the Olympics represent...commercialism and all.

On a side note...NBC has got to get rid of Sandra Bezic and Dick Button for figure skating. So much negativity. It's one thing to comment on issues that affect performance but come on! If you're in the Olympics, you deserve some credit. IT seems like they got bonus $ for every time they sounded holier than thou. I started watching with the mute on.

How I know I'm smarter than my wife...

During one of our earliest dates, Tamar and I came across the fact that we both took Latin in high school. I was particularly proud of one fact.

"I took the National Latin Exam and got a silver medal," I boasted.
"I got gold," she calmly replied.

That, combined with her legal mind and vastly superior intellect for Jewish texts made me defer to her wisdom on many things (technology being one of the obvious exceptions.)

Anyway, the last few days have made me change my mind.

I'm going to Israel for a week...by myself. I've been sick now for about 3 weeks and Tamar has borne the brunt of child care. It's becoming more and more obvious that, as was said at my wedding, I "married way above myself."

Obviously, if my wife were smarter than I, she wouldn't have agreed to marry me. That's how I know I'm smarter than she. :-)

Anne's sacrifice...

We have a wonderful woman who takes care of Erez one day a week. She's from Kenya, 48, and the mother of 4 kids who live in Nairobi.

She speaks often of her "responsibility" and the need to "sacrifice" as a parent. The entire reason why she is in the US is to earn money so that her children, all of whom are back in Kenya, can go to graduate school. Shes' got another 4 years or so, by her calculations, before she can return to her family.

You think that once you raise your kids, your job is done, but Anne doesn't feel that way. It never ends.

Housekeepers who don't speak English...

In the age of Caller ID, I have a very hard time understanding why someone would instruct a non-English speaking housekeeper to answer the phone. It's my job now to speak Spanish?

Why not let it ring and I'll leave a message? Now, you've inconvenienced me by making me call back again later to make sure my message gets through.

This one I don't get.

Learning how to feel...

I'm going to Israel on Sunday for a week. Intellectually, I know, that there's as much risk in going there as driving to the office in my car. Of course, the fact that I'm flying, going to the Middle East raises the perceived risk.

I was feeling pretty anxious tonight as I thought about what could happen and what that would mean for my family.

I came downstairs and started crying. Tamar gave me a hug and then Calanit came over and held me for a while.

I love my family so much and I worry about what would happen to them if, for some reason, something happened to me. I don't like to think about it, of course, but you have to because the responsible thing is to think about it and prepare for it, which I have done.

It's very interesting how these things, whicha few years ago, wouldn't have fazed me, give me pause now because of the people who depend on me...and whom I love.

I've been reading a book recently by Rabbi Harold Kushner called "When all you ever had wasn't enough" and the most recent section discussed learning how to feel so you can really learn how to live. Wonder if this is part of the process.

Speaking of process and the "journey as destination," parenthood makes you think about "what it all means," why we're here, and where we're going.

Yes, there's an element of eternity because your kids live beyond you, but recently I've started to just appreciate the process more. Seeing my kids development, seeing myself develop as a parent. It gives me a nice sense of serenity to think about that instead of asking myself...what's this all about? It's right in front of me.

Dora the Explorer....

As it turns out, Calanit's middle name is Dora. And one of her favorite shows is "Dora the Explorer."

Every episode, Dora and her monkey friend Boots (he's really a monkey) set off on some adventure. In order to reach their objective, they must consult their friend, "the Map." He instructs them on the directions to their goal, which invariably has three components. For example.

1. Go THROUGH the Jungle
2. Cross OVER the Lake
3. ...and that's how you reach the magic temple (or wherever)

Then, he repeats (as does Dora throughout the show)
Jungle...Lake...Magic Temple
Jungle...Lake...Magic Temple

Now, our nightime routine has taken a page out of that book.
1. First, we play
2. Then, we take a bath
3. Then, we go to sleep

Play...bath...go to sleep. Play...bath...go to sleep.

Calanit has mastered this. It's pretty cute.

Social Networking and CRM...

Don't know if you are familiar with the social networking site www.linkedin.com or not, but the concept is potentially very powerful.

Was talking about it at lunch today with some colleagues about how they use it. I've played around with it, but haven't figured out exactly what the "killer app" component of the concept is just yet.

Anyway, that led to a conversation of how we keep in touch with our networks. Mine is very simple in strategy, but difficult to execute, simply because it requires discipline and focus.

Basically, I divide my world into personal and business networks. Then, those people are divided up into "Special Interest Groups" that associate with areas of moderate expertise of mine. These are technology, Jewish/Israel, Germany, Japan, and then groups I belong to, like alumni of Hopkins or JDS (my high school).

Each person is tagged in Outlook with any of the multiple categories to which they belong. When I find something of interest to that group, I'll just send an email to everyone in the entire category.

That's the ad-hoc stuff. The programmatic effort is as follows.
I send a quarterly update to the business and personal networks. The personal one gets a linked to the blog, pictures of my kids, and other personal stuff. The business group gets commentary on business world and a more straightforward update. Obviously, people can move from business to personal (and occasionally the other way).

I also make a point of calling everyone on the personal list on his/her birthday.

I've found a few things out.
1. people, no matter how old, appreciate being remembered on their birthday
2. people remember each year the fact that I remember their birthday
3. if I talk to someone only once a year-on his/her birthday-then that's ok

Basically what this does is when I arrive in, say, Denver and call someone I haven't seen in 5 years, it's not as awkward because, at the very least, that person knows what is going on with me and I've spoken (or left a VM) to him annually for a few minutes.

Some days there are 0 or 1 birthdays. Some days, like tomorrow, there are 6 or 7. So, I invest up to 1 hour in relationships...big deal. At the least, the person appreciates it and at the most, I have a good conversation with someone.

Is it shallow? No, I don't think so. I'm not keeping people in my network because I want to "use" them for some advantage. These are people I've met, have had an impact on me over the years, and with whom I'd like to keep in touch. I appreciate their life perspectives and what they can share with me.

A colleague of mine said yesterday that, "aside from your parents, the things that have the most influence on you over the course of your life are the books you read and the people you meet."

That's why I invest the time and energy to keep in touch and stay up to date.

I also love www.plaxo.com for this reason, but that's another subject.

How to explain....

I tell people that there are two things in life that I've experienced that I can't possibly explain to other people. The first is starting and owning your own business. The other is parenthood.

Calanit and I have a routine now.

Jeremy: "Who loves Calanit this much?" (stretching out arms all the way)
Calanit: Abba!!! (that's father in Hebrew)

Jeremy: And who is Abba's favorite girl?
Calanit: Calanit!!!!

How do you explain how that one feels?

Netflix and the cost of movie testing...

My dad and I share a NetFlix account. What I realized today is that with the marginal cost of putting a movie on my queue at zero, the cost of "testing out a movie" has dropped significantly. It's made me less risk averse.

Before, you'd go to the video store and have to consider whether the $4 was worth it for a movie you'd either never heard of or someone recommended to you. Now, you ask for it, it comes and you can test it out.

I did this the other day with "The Terminal." After 30 minutes, I could tell it was a movie I didn't want to watch. I just put it back in the mail and waited for the next one.

What NetFlix has done, in this respect, is helped me to take more chances in the movies I'm willing to screen. I'll give it 20 minutes and if I like it, great. If not, send it back.

Another dramatic impact of the Internet.

Parenting drama

About 2 weeks ago, Calanit realized that she didn't need to stay in bed when she woke up and that she could come into our room. Not a big deal, she usually climbs into bed with us or sits quietly on the floor.

This morning, Tamar and I are lying there, and we hear Calanit say "I have a poopie."

"Great, do you want to go the potty?" We've been working with her on this topic.

"I have a poopie."

Keep in mind that at this time, both Tamar and I are in bed with our eyes closed. Calanit is on the floor.

At some point, I look over and squint (not wearing glasses and all) and see that Calanit is lying on her back WITH HER DIAPER OFF and yes, she has a poopie.

I am notoriously difficult to wake and we're constantly fatigued (though Erez is improving significantly, it should be noted), but nothing gets me out of bed faster than an open diaper, face down on the floor of my bedroom.

Catastrophe has long since been averted, but it's one of those unpredictable twists of parenting that you just have to love...or you will go insane.

Guardians of Israel...

Among 'mainstream' (that is to say, left leaning, Democrat-oriented) Jews, the Christian right is something to be feared. Their perceived aggressive, proselyte-focused, and faith-based mentality makes many Jews feel uncomfortable. To an extent, I can understand that.

I've also come to appreciate the fundamentalist Christians. They are supporters of Israel and, in my mind, it's a no lose scenario. Basically, the deal is that the Christians support Israel as a Jewish state until the 2nd coming of Jesus. In my mind, that's a deal I'm willing to make.

Anyway, this morning, I was reconfiguring the TV (after a power outage) and stopped for a moment on Channel 17, which was promoting www.guardiansofisrael.tv and showing pictures of Israeli pensioners who couldn't afford their medicince and soliciting donations from Christians to support Israel.

The show also talked about the impact of terrorism on the Israeli economy and made a point of showing the entire state of Israel without and reference to Gaza, West Bank, or Golan.

Amazing....they put their money where their mouths are and some people wonder who their friends are....

A conversation from a child's perspective

It’s great to see how a kid looks at a simple question with fresh eyes after adults are so conditioned to look at it another way.

 

A recent example. We got a note from pre-school saying that a friend of Calanit’s, Kara, wanted to have a play date with her.

 

I said, “we could definitely do that, depending on where she lives.” Looking at Tamar, I asked, “where does Kara live?”

 

Calanit chimed in…”at home!”

 

So true and obvious.